What qualities are you seeking in a potential mate?

Dixie · Member

What qualities are you seeking in a potential mate?

Maria · Member

Laughter, joy and common interests are so important to me. Of course the immediate reaction to the physical being is just being human, at this age we all know what appeals to us and what doesnt but do try to keep an open mind, everyone brings something to the table. Life is better with many interests and interesting friends to share it with. If that special someone comes around great but I feel we should be happy and confident with ourselves first and that gives us the power to love and enjoy life.

Dixie · Member

Good post, Maria. Thanks for contributing.

NotSeniorYet · Member

As a 50s old divorced male active on dating sites I would respond:

1) A female with not too much "baggage" or commitments which would prevent her from being available. Children should be high school or college or grown up. Work should not get in way of dating.
2) Primarily interested in someone my age or younger
3) Does not need to be a goddess, but should be attractive and somewhat "in shape", take care of her appearance.
4) In my case, not being strongly religious, would prefer someone similar.
5) Honesty and integrity.
6) Has similar interests, can participate in mine.
7) Live within 5-15 miles so we can be spontaneous.
8) Physically and sexually compatible

Dixie · Member

Good list, NotSeniorYet, however, it's been almost impossible for me to find someone within my age range that lives 5-15 miles.

AussieBilly · Veteran Member

NotSeniorYet hit the nail just right ... personally I couldn't add anything to his list and may use it if I ever get to the stage I start advertising in the help wanted page.
And that day may not be too far off. Unlike this gentleman I have reached the conclusion that I may have to go to the local newspaper. A graph showing my experence in the dating field since turning 50 indicates trouble ahead ... In my 50s and early 60s I found myself keeping company with a lovely lady six years younger. Things were going along well until I retired. Not long after celebrating my 67th b'day she informed me I was history. The reason given had something to do with her not wanting to get caught in the "nothing left to do but become the old man's nurse/keeper."
Well, okay, I didn't argue (much) and nearing my 70th I met a woman, a POM (for you Yanks, that's someone from England). On our second date, a nice dinner in a top notch restaurant, she let me know that there would be no sex in any future. She was, and I quote; " .... well past that."
My next female acqaintance was wonderful ... from Scotland, she was. But had suffered through breast cancer and her meds destroyed her sexual usrges. That was acceptable, not the best thing, but she was an exceptional lady. Sad to say the cancer came back with a vengence and ...
Now I'm 74, no candidates is view. There seems to be a hoo-doo on any man once he reaches the big 70. So it goes. Maybe I'll just give it up and join a monkary (like a nunnery only for men).

mickydm · Newbie

I feel that by middle age (baby boomer), and definately older, everyone has some baggage. Being open minded to their personal story without judgement, in my opinion, would be the best way to pick a person to date. I've been divorced for over sixteen years. In those years I have met, dated, and found out there are "diamonds in the rough" and visa versa. With first impressions, people try to bring their best manners forward, but soon show the "real deal". It's very interesting, fun, and an adventure dating the opposite type I married. Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know until you poke the middles. You expect nuts, and they turn out to be sweet nugets.

NotSeniorYet · Member

AussieBilly talks about newspaper ads. Well that's how I met my (now ex) wife about 30 years ago. It worked for me back then. But in the USA the newspaper ads are history I think. The internet is so much easier and faster. I've had some experiences with online dating. There are some good sites out there www.plentyoffish.com www.okcupid.com and SuddenlySenior has www.suddenlyseniordating.com - also eHarmony and Match.com ... lots to choose from. Some people use Craigslist.org and Backpage.com though these are more for casual sex than finding a mate. All have their pros and cons. Maybe I will start a separate thread to discuss some of my thoughts on these.

Maria · Member

Hi All,
Not judging just stating, maybe you should start by examining your own lists, they seem very restrictive and narrow on who is and is not acceptable.
What jumped out at me was the "my age or younger" "no baggage" and "within 5 to 15 miles" . Please don't miss out on some wonderful interactions with women not living life within those parameters. Volunteer at Habitat for Humanity, the local Red Cross or someplace that interests you. There will be other like minded adults sharing their time and talents and you have already have a common interest just being there. There are motorcycle groups, bridge groups etc etc, you get the idea. Observing someone doing what they like is very eyeopening and many strong relationships begin this way. Mickydm had some good advice when he suggests dating the opposite type and life being like a box of chocolates.

Dixie · Member

NotSeniorYet,

Why don't you go ahead and start a new thread on your thoughts on this subject. We all learn from one another.

Dixie · Member

Good points you brought out, Mickey.

While I certainly believe in being cautious when using these matching/dating sites,we need to be open to all prospects because we may be passing up a real gem. If we don't reach out to others , then we remain in the status quo. Using our good sense and "gut feeling", we should, at our age, pretty well be able to determine who is genuine and who is not.

dougnoble · Moderator

I wrote an article just over a year ago in Suddenly Senior about my personal experiences which is worth reading if you are interested in finding a mate through online dating.

FINDING LOVE ONLINE: THOUGHTS ON VALENTINES DAY

NotSeniorYet · Member

Maria wrote:
Hi All,
Not judging just stating, maybe you should start by examining your own lists, they seem very restrictive and narrow on who is and is not acceptable. What jumped out at me was the "my age or younger" "no baggage" and "within 5 to 15 miles" .

Maria these are good points. They were not meant to be rules for everyone. These are my "personal list" .... built based on MY experiences in dating, and MY personal situation. You date people, you find out that they are only available on a limited basis, because of children's needs, or their health, or care giving or whatever... and you decide if that works for you or not. You decide if you are willing to drive far or not, based on where you live, or whether the other party has transport. 10 miles in a rural area might be a lot easier that 10 miles in a congested city where it takes an hour! A person's financial situation might or might not be a factor. Age is also subjective, I have not yet met anyone significantly older than me who I was attracted to, that might change but has not happened yet! But I do agree that an open mind is a good thing. If you strike up a conversation online with someone and you have an initial attraction, common interests or whatever, at least go into it with an open mind. But if you start talking to someone 1000 miles away and you determine that neither party would be willing or able to relocate if the relationship progressed, it's rather pointless if what you seek is someone to have a regular physical relationship with.

Dixie · Member

I would like to add a suggestion about meeting people when you are out shopping, etc. One time I was in a computer store, a nice looking gentleman, in my age range, came up to me and asked a question about computers. I happen to glance at his hand and saw he was still wearing a wedding band, so that immediately turned me off. I answered his question , then sort of walked away showing no more interest in continuing our conversation. Later, as I was standing at the check -out counter, I over heard this fellow tell the sales clerk he had started spending much more time on computers now that his wife had passed away. So....I missed an opportunity by jumping to conclusions too swiftly and have vowed not to let this happen again. I think we should all keep an open mind , be approachable but at all times using common sense and as I stated earlier, trust our instincts. As the old saying goes, one is likely to find someone when least expected.

Maria · Member

Not Senior Yet,

Everything you said helped me to understand your list. Never having been on
a dating site I did'nt realize that you have to have parameters to even decide who
to communicate with. Good luck in your quest and your right we all have to do
what works for us. Lesson learned. Thank-you for taking the time to explain and not just writing it off.

NotSeniorYet · Member

Dixie wrote:

Good list, NotSeniorYet, however, it's been almost impossible for me to find someone within my age range that lives 5-15 miles.

It depends on where you live, if you are in a rural area maybe that is true. Try going on one of the dating sites like suddenlyseniordating.com or plentyoffish.com (both free to join), enter some basic search parameters - age, location etc. and see how many hits show up, then you will get an idea of the size of the dating pool in your area. All it takes is one match!

I did like your story about the computer store. Being in a store allows you to break the ice by asking a question about something you see there, much easier than trying to approach someone at a party or social gathering since you are not thought of as "hitting on them". Potential matches can be anywhere, a friend who had gone through two divorces met his new girlfriend when chatting with the lady behind the counter while picking up his dry cleaning.

-- Edited by NotSeniorYet on Friday 18th of March 2011 02:53:35 PM

jessiewriting · Newbie

Better watch it there are a lot of wolfs in sheep clothing out there , try your church singles group, it is safe and everyone goes out in a group till someone gets really interested in one person I have seen marriages take place from the singles group of my church and I live in a rural area, there are some sinlge farmers out there that want a good woman to help them. That way you know who they are and etc not some unknown on the internet, that only wants to go to bed with you and any money they can get from you. Just a word of caution. would not want to see you get hurt.

Dixie · Member

Hi Doug,

I reread your article again about your dating expeience. I had read it when you first submitted, but enjoyed reviewing the information.

NotSeniorYet · Member

jessiewriting wrote:

Better watch it there are a lot of wolfs in sheep clothing out there , try your church singles group, it is safe and everyone goes out in a group till someone gets really interested in one person I have seen marriages take place from the singles group of my church and I live in a rural area, there are some single farmers out there that want a good woman to help them. That way you know who they are and etc not some unknown on the internet, that only wants to go to bed with you and any money they can get from you. Just a word of caution. would not want to see you get hurt.

That's a fair point. On the Internet, you really have no idea who is writing to you. Or anything about the people writing on this board? And a smooth operator can say what they like in email to gain your trust. People pose as young women to attarct older men, con men pose as rich men, men pose as women and women pose as men... it's very easy behind a keyboard. And the more gullible among us can be taken in and taken to the cleaners.

Google phrases like "rules for safe internet dating" ... many links - like this one:

http://www.dangersofinternetdating.com/articles/playingitsafe.htm

AussieBilly · Veteran Member

Online dating has, I believe replaced meeting at church or in the workplace except Jessiewriting is right ... you have no way of knowing with whom you’re communicating. Be careful, be very careful.
Personally I have had only one success through a dating site, the lady and I met and had a brief two or three month relationship before we decided it wasn’t going to work. Today she and I still email each other and go out for coffee when I’m in her area.
Putting down the fact that I’m over 70 seems to be the kill button on such sites so I no longer go on them ... there are no, or very, very few responses. I’ll stick with meeting people at the tennis club or maybe take up ballroom dancing. Tai Chi anyone?

Vahri · Dreamer

AussieBilly wrote:
Online dating has, I believe replaced meeting at church or in the workplace except Jessiewriting is right ... you have no way of knowing with whom you’re communicating. Be careful, be very careful.

One thing that the Internet gives you is some anonymity - which is a boon if you are shy. If you are at a social gathering - church or otherwise - you might be shy to approach that lady or gentleman, but in the online community you can say hello with little fear of rejection. I would have a hard time approaching someone in the grocery store but can be quite cheeky when online!

AussieBilly are you in a city or a more rural area down under? I would think that as time goes on, the next generation of 70 year olds will have grown up in the Intrenet age and be less wary of mamking connections that way.

Mr FixIt · Newbie

Dixie,

Maybe I missed it but I don't see your "must have" list. You are very good looking and know how to converse and use a computer. A profile on SeniorFriendFinder.com or Match.com should flood your inbox with interested men.

I "talk" to a lot of single people about sex and relationships. In general, men and women between 50 and 70 want about the same thing. Men tend to put more emphasis on the importance of sex and women want what they have always wanted, a mature, financially stable man who can take care of himself and is honestly romantic. And both are tired of dealing with their own "baggage" and definitely don't want to deal with new personal problems.

After 70, I thought men would have and advantage; the "active seniors" apartment complexes are 85%+ women. But as "Newbie" found out, women are smart. Even if they are natural "caretakers" and suddenly find the love of their life, they have heard too many stories of women marrying after 70 only to have their new husbands fall apart in a year or two and require full time care. Advice for men over 70 who have found a special woman: be extremely careful when considering a marriage proposal (to the point of letting her ask you).

Man or woman, want a mate?

Take care of yourself (men especially...stay clean, well-groomed and physically fit, get a magnifying mirror if you can't see the hairs coming out of your ears)
Don't get into a rut, Explore your city, visit museums, dance clubs, senior centers, sporting events, libraries and tourist attractions.
Let the world know you are open and available to the opposite sex.
Don't let your "must have" list stop you from experiencing "chemistry".
Approach every day with one job on your "To-Do" list: MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY That is the best way to make those around you happy and attract your perfect mate.

While you are "interviewing" potential mates, make sure you practice safe-sex. Apparently, STDs among seniors is a growing concern of health professionals.

Sorry for the long post, I got carried away.

Rick

Dixie · Member

Hello "Mr.Fixit",

Thank you for your kind compliments, however, I have not been successful on these matching/dating sites.

No, I didn't enter a list but I will now.
Qualities that are important to me are: someone who is genuine, kind, and intelligent. The suggestions you gave are such good ones . Don't be concerned about writing too much or getting carried away . We are here to learn and exchange experiences , thoughts, ideas, etc.

hinotelady · Newbie

At age 74, I subscribed to a dating site and was a member for 2 years. During that time, I have corresponded with
quite a few men, but due to distances between us, most fell by the wayside. I still email and send forwards to 11 men who remain in contact with me. Several have written and stated that appreciated my total honesty in my writing. Three men have given me the ""big song and dance" about how much they wanted to meet me. They supposedly took contracts overseas, and due to different circumstances, then wanted to borrow money from me, which they did not receive. I finally unsubscribed to that site last July, as there were just too many disappointments.

One of the men on that site, I still write to every day. In his profile, he stated that he was crippled from polio and his wife was an Alzheimer's patient. That deep compassion of mine took hold and I wrote to him. What began as just a friendly gesture on my part has become a little more than that. Over the last 2 years, we've discussed many topics, and agree on just about everything. We hope someday to meet each other. His wife is still living in a nursing home, and with the fact that we are 1500 miles apart, that meeting might never take place, but there is always hope!

The free site I am on now is bringing out all the young ones, ages from about 30 to 55. There are only 4 in my age group who live within 100 miles of me, so I don't expect much from that site either.

AussieBilly · Veteran Member

Good morning Dreamer...

I'm glad you asked where I live -- it is rural, very rural. There are sheep grazing in the paddock next door!

Let me tell you about it ... I’ve recently moved house and now live in Yolla, Tasmania, about 15km from the coastal community of Somerset. The surrounding country is agriculture, mainly cattle, sheep with potatoes, jasmine, poppies and other crops. Yolla is your typical village. At one end is the school, a fire station and a combined post/grocery store/petrol station/take-away cafe. A defunct Shell petrol station right next door to a tavern! I’ve been assured it is really a pub but the sign outside calls it a tavern so a tavern it is. Reminds me of Oregon. The dances held at the tavern, I’ve been told, are great fun. And the tavern is only about 500 or so km up the road from my house! Almost within crawling distance!

I’m sharing this with you so you’ll understand that in my experience meeting women have best been done at either a dance or on the tennis court. With the tavern so close by all I’ll need is a woman able to crawl that far!

Of course in the past couple years I've not been very fortunate in the love lottery. Maybe with the tavern down the road ... who knows?

Billy

Xiatrix · Newbie

Hey AussieBilly - the concept of older men not finding partners are strange to me as I always thought they (the men) prefer only younger women. I am 68, trim, fairly good looking, in very good health, but cannot find a partner on a dating site because of my age. The moment they realise you are OLD they lost interest.

kathyr · Newbie

Hello, Everyone,
A lot of very good comments. Be careful wherever you meet people. I know of 2 women who met men at church and turned out they were useing church so women would be more comfortable meeting there and the men turned out not to be good people....I agree that women of a certain age are at a great disadvantage because of their age. The men want younger women and the younger women act like they want the older men, often for their financial security....I agree the key is to stay active, productive, healthy and happy with yourself. That special person may or may not come along but desperation is not attractive at any age. By the way, I have worked on many Habitat Houses and in my area the gentlemen near my age are all married.... :) I do agree that volunteer work is a good potential meeting place, and caring people do give back to their community...

AussieBilly · Veteran Member

While on the subject of older men and younger women, I ran across this tidbit that you might find interesting. First understand that down here in Australia it is not uncommon for older men with a good retirement to travel to Indonesia or the Philippines with the goal of finding an attractive young wife. Nothing wrong with that, I guess. I suppose it helps the older man feeling young and gives the young woman a new and better life.

However one government is apparently trying to keep its women at home. The Cambodian government announced new restriction on foreign marriages, stipulating that grooms must be younger than 50 and should earn more than US$2,550 per month.

Now I ask you, is putting the age limit on things discriminatory?

AussieBilly · Veteran Member

Hey, if you don't log off when you're through you remain logged on ...
Common sense? Yeah, but I'm a man so that lets me out.
Anyhow I do have something to add to the mix -- Joan Price's blog. You people want to know about sex and relationships after reaching that certain age? Check out this lady's information.
Add to the list of qualities I'm after in a woman the knowledge that she read Joan's comments on things and is comfortable with what Ms Price believes.
That's all from here today

handsome50 · Newbie

Hi.. I'm just new to the forums.. I'll try to be active and here's what i think of the topic.

For me, who is on my early 50's, would say that I'm looking for someone :

1.) who understands me
2.) who respects my beliefs and opinions
3.) that is nice, loving and of course, romantic
4.) doesn't think that its too late to fall in love

and finally, someone that would love me for what i am and knows how to complete my day..

Naha · Member

I am writng to disagree with you. LOL I am female, 64, and overweight. I was widowed in 1997, after 31 yrs. of marriage. I started the dating scene in 1998 and had no trouble finding interesing males. I moved to a new state, lived in a mobile park and make new female friends. We girls went out together to bars, movies, bingo whatever and had a ball. Met my 2nd husband that way. LOL He was 2 yrs younger than me. Now I am divorced, and seeing a great guy who is 6 yrs younger than me. We have been together quite a while. Be adventerous, self confident and laugh a lot. I love life and carry that attitude to the hilt. :) But keep time to yourself and have girl friends!!! Men come and go, but a true friend is there forever.

AussieBilly · Veteran Member

Naha ... very good on you. Your story reminds me ... Once a few years ago I got a call from a male friend inviting me to coffee. He was developing a Thursday morning coffee group aimed at men and women of our age who wanted to meet other men and women. He advertised in the local paper and got a number of calls. The problem was he had a dozen or so women responding but only a few men. Would I come help fill out the group? Liking the odds, I showed up. Over the next few months, each Thursday I enjoyed the company of a lot of women and drank a lot of coffee. I soon learned something interesting: most all the women were there to meet other women -- they were looking for companionship. Most if not all the men were there with the goal of finding someone to start a relationship with. As you say, Naha, "Men come and go, but a true friend is there forever" is, from my experience, a true female thought. Makes me wonder if that isn't nature at work and an indicator of one of the major differences in the sexes. Just a thought.

Naha · Member

Thank you for your thought, I believe it is right fully on target. It brought to mind my friend Judy. She a few years younger than me. She has been single for 20 plus years and has dated some, but not on a regular basis. Being diabetic and overwieight she stated many times that she had an image problem with her body. Well on a dare she went to a dating site, and has met a nice gentleman, who lives about a 100 miles from her. They have met and been together every weekend for over a year now. As she still works full time, and with a boyfriend she has little time for other things. In a phone conversation recently she stated, "He and I need to talk, this every weekend thing is getting to be the pits, my yard work isn't getting done, and I miss having lunch with my girlfriends". Suggested she approach the subject tenderly as he may not understand and feel he is being rejected. I hope she took my advice. I love her and want her to keep that full filling she has acquired with his male company.
I enjoy my boyfriends prescence, but we had the understanding right from the start, that I have family and friends and he may not always be invited to our get to gethers. Not because he is unwanted, but because we need our space too. My family has accepted him and even call him stepgrandpa. Hahahhaa. But my girl friends? They are happy for me, but when we have lunch, or coffee it is just us. We don't bring husbands or boyfriends. We go home and share our conversation with them, but we still can be us on our terms. :)

dogmommy · Newbie

OMG--can relate to AussieBilly's comments as to the age thing!! When I announced my pending retirement (having worked 47 years), my "totally committed" significant other of eight years, split for probably the same reasons as AussieBilly's younger woman (my guy was 20 years my junior). Oh well--my motto is something like "never give up." Actually, I haven't started looking, but have determined not to look for anything younger than I am (just turned 70). Last year, I promised myself to find a "boyfriend" when I turned 70, but now just can't get going in the dating world. So, I guess my question is "how does one get started again?"

dogmommy · Newbie

I'd be happy just to find someone nice, who has enough money to share travel expenses, smells good, and able to go see the world. Any takers out there?

Joan39 · Member

I would want a friend to be honest, no lies, be compatible and treat me good. I think it is good to be assertive to a degree, but not to hurt someone.

I am a widow, haven't dated much but would be nice to go out to dinner, garage sales, travel. Wow, been a long time for that.

Life is too short to sit around and grumble, talk about people or poor me!

Have a great day everyone and be good to your neighbor, you may need them someday.

This is my story and I am sticking to it!! lol

Enjoy life.

A1Phyllis · Member

I agree we should be careful ( very careful), and yet, be openminded.... If you don't have some good qualities in mind, and don't share them, then how will the other person "get a clue" what you are looking for?

Me, I want a guy who is honest, easy going, understanding, likes to travel/go to movies, out sometimes to dinner and maybe even dance a bit. Also like to play cards. Someone financially secure, and who is comfortable as to who he is. Must like cats,too, lol; I tried one time giving up my cat for my guy, and that was a disaster. We both have to be happy. ( side note~ I was actually able to get my cat back after a month, as my cat was so miserable without me..... he wouldn't eat or anything, life is funny that way sometimes!)

I haven't tried dating in a few years, I'm still working, and time is at a premium for me, but my weekends are somewhat open, and the time will soon come ( if not sooner) I will have lots of time.... but I love good company, time spent with good friends , and generally enjoying life. So will try again...... I had the love of my life once, maybe it could happen again.

Love the open honest exchange going on here....... hope to get to know y'all better!!!

Joan39 · Member

Hey Bill. Don't give up!

AussieBilly · Veteran Member

RE: What qualities are you seeking in a potential mate?

Dixie · Member

Jane Fonda's new book, "Prime Time", states she married three Alpha males. An alpha type male would be a quality I would like to add to my list for a potential mate (but not a domineering man).

Joan39 · Member

Don't give up yet friend! The best is yet to come. Joan

aussiegal · Member

very interesting posts,it's fun to read how others feel and think
i was on a dating site last week,met someone 67 who acted like he was 80 lol,not my type
deleted my profile after that,don't know if you ever noticed but a lot of men(prob women as well) are on every available site and most have been there for yrs,not because they can't find someone but because noone is ever good enough(you know the greener grass and all that)
i often think men use it like a lolly(sweet) shop to pick and choose and have a taste and then throw it back in the bottle lol
yes i check them out periodically to see if it's worth joining,only joined for 3 day's this time

Dixie · Member

Aussiegal,
Hello. I agree and don't mean to sound like a "man basher", but it appears these men are not only looking for much younger women,
but seem to continue their search/quest ( next) for the one ahead that might be prettier, younger, sexier, etc. I have noticed too, that they are on many dating/matching sites and have been there for years. I have found they enter their age as much younger too.
These men that can't seem to settle on one...maybe it is a blessing in disguise to us women, for they ween themselves out and could
be saving us from a lot of wasted time, effort , and energy. The challenge seems to be in finding that one special fellow who realizes all this daydreaming , etc.

-- Edited by Dixie on Saturday 22nd of October 2011 12:47:24 PM

AussieBilly · Veteran Member

An, Dixie, Dixie, Dixie ... I am unable to let this pass without putting in my 2 cts ...
First, yes, men do have a slightly different approach and yes, men can be prone to lie. But it is woman's fault! Well, maybe not all women, but definitely one specific woman: Mother Nature. For some unexplained reason Ms Nature decreed that at a certain time in the maturing of the female gender the desire for reproduction would dissipate. With the fading away of that, the driving force of all species, there would naturally be attitudinal changes. The adjustment under discussion here is one of libido. As Alice Barnhard said: "True love never dies for it is lust that fades away."
While all this is going on the joke Ms Nature played becomes evident ... the male counterpart does not experience the modulation, neither mentally or physically. He just keep plugging along doing, or wanting to do, what the good lady had designed him to do.
So there we are; men with ongoing desires running headlong into the brick wall of female indifference. Oh, woe is me. The result is what both you, dear Dixie, and the Aussiegal comment on; men doing whatever they have to do to fulfill, or attempt to fulfill, Mother's basic design. Even reaching the higher number of years, the desire is evident. Unfulfillment is answered, almost naturally, with adjustments, such as fibbing, in order to raise the possibility of meeting a female with a kindred spirit.
Let us hear it for the poor male ... the ultimate brunt of Mother Nature's sense of humor.

By the way, Dixie, when you started this thread, did you have any idea it would reach these proportions? I, for one, am glad you're still responsive even with your slightly mean take on men.

Stay warm, smile and be happy, all

Dixie · Member

Greetings Aussie Billy,

It's good to see you posting again.

May I beg to differ, but please do not assume that ALL women loose their desire nor experience attitudinal changes

Nor do I believe all men fit in the catagory, for if you noted, I said the key .... the challenge is finding that one
special man who is wise enough to realize this.

I 'm pleased so many comments have been posted on this thread . I just wish others would start new topics for discussion.

I keep warm, always smile, and find happiness in each and every day.

Rainbows and moonbeams to you , Billy.

Dixie

AussieBilly · Veteran Member

Ah, so, instead of simply putting a sticker on my forehead saying I'm wonderful I should tattoo "I am one of the special men" up on that ever-growing stretch of skin?

Yes, I agree about the deficiency in interesting topics, too bad. However when this forum first began I had hopes of it growing, something that doesn't seem to be happening. Is that something to discuss? Or should we just wait for the 2012 political games to begin ...

Dixie · Member

Nope, Billy, no sticker on the forehead nor tattoo is needed. The kind of man I am talking about shows his wisdom by his actions.

I have wondered why others don't start new topics. Are there that many passive people, or do they prefer just to read and not comment, or comment occasionally and not present an interesting topic for discussion?

aussiegal · Member

well i'll put my 2 cents in again if i may about the loss of sex drive in women
i don't believe this is true for most same as it isn't true for men mostly
and while we are at it aussiebilly,a lot of men want to and can't ,women can,that's mother nature for you as well ha ha

aussiegal · Member

NotSeniorYet wrote:
AussieBilly talks about newspaper ads. Well that's how I met my (now ex) wife about 30 years ago. It worked for me back then. But in the USA the newspaper ads are history I think. The internet is so much easier and faster. I've had some experiences with online dating. There are some good sites out there www.plentyoffish.com www.okcupid.com and SuddenlySenior has www.suddenlyseniordating.com - also eHarmony and Match.com ... lots to choose from. Some people use Craigslist.org and Backpage.com though these are more for casual sex than finding a mate. All have their pros and cons. Maybe I will start a separate thread to discuss some of my thoughts on these.

here in aus plentyoffish would be the worst dating site for honesty i have been on it for short periods from time to time and have yet to meet someone who is truthfull in their profile,specially about age,they say what they think people want to hear,plus it has the most people on it that have been there forever,it's a free game to them

AussieBilly · Veteran Member

Okay, Ellie ... so I was speaking in more general terms.

And Dixie ... maybe this is your next topic to open up for discussion? Of course another young lady, Joan Price, has covered the subject from a senior's viewpoint quite well. So it goes ........


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