Does Being Assertive Work?

Dixie · Member

Does Being Assertive Work?

NotSeniorYet · Member

RE: Assertion

jazzyarizona · Member

RE: Does Being Assertive Work?

Mr FixIt · Newbie

Dixie,

I was never "aggressive" by any means and only "assertive" when hints and suggestions failed to work. Now I wonder how much time I wasted not getting what I might have wanted.

By now, we are who we are so waiting for anything just makes us older. Doesn't most everything good in our lives come from us taking action?

I used to think this was a punch line to some joke but now I know it to be a life lesson for both men and women: "The best and fastest way to get what you really want is to ask for it."

Rick

Xiatrix · Newbie

I don't think I could ever be assertive. I prefer men chasing me instead. In any case, I am living in Taiwan and would never ever even try to be assertive towards the Chinese men!

dale131 · Newbie

At my age 76, assertive works for me. I like people who know what they want and will put it right out there. Someone who says hey I like you an let's get it one will win in a hurry if I am attracted to them. I'm too old to play the let's get aquainted first game ... I might be dead beore the next round ... so let's just do it or forget it.

ggwrites · Newbie

Hi all, well assertive scares some and surprises others. I have come to find that most women are aggressively assertive after a certain age. I have been widowed now 30 yrs and to my surprise, once I went to a dance with a gorgeous looking man. A few women asked him to dance and by the evenings end he had a pocketful of numbers tucked in his pocket. I was really amazed at the nerve, as I was obviously with him. Never tried that myself, seems kind of desperate, but hey, I am cute and I am sitting here on the shelf, maybe it works. You know the old saying "nothing ventured, nothing gained." And I have run across this kind of nerviness many times since. I prefer to at least get a clue that they might be interested first before barging into their space. I am doing it all wrong tho, I quess, never get the one I want. lol.... gg

A1Phyllis · Member

I vote for assertive - Faint heart never won fair maiden ( or man either). I agree with most; we have lived awhile, and while it would be nice to have the guy contact first ( childhood thinking there); there just isn't enough time or energy to wait "forever".
I've been alone a long time; I hope not to end my life that way ( whenever that may be, lol) and face it; none of us really knows!!!!
Independence is fine, I like me, but would love to find someone to share......

Candy · Newbie

I still think that a man should create one first step!


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